Nature vs Nurture: Who's ur daddy part deux!

So I know I should have already written this blog weeks ago, but, better late than never right?  Ok so, basically, I met my DAD!  This happened during our trip to California the end of April and it was truly wonderful!

SO, going your whole life not knowing much about a biological parent is needless to say, kinda weird. I mean when I was younger I didn't really think about it much as I saw me dwelling on things like that as a sign of emotional weakness so I would not allow it.  In my 'old age' I became 'weaker' and did allow myself to 'go there'...

First of all, I have never EVER felt like I was even remotely like anyone in my family.  Generally when you see families together or have spent any time around one you can see who resembles who, where someone acquired such and such trait, who their intelligence or lack there of came from etc.  In my family I just never felt that kindred soul-ness. This all changed when I made 'first contact' (lol) with my father! After we exchanged emails I was struck at how similar our writing style was - very conversational, unlike any other person I had had correspondence with up till this point in my life.  It was at this realization that I had to grab Drew and make him read these emails so he could see if I was just being crazy or if the resemblance was uncanny as I suspected.  The reason I bring this specific example up, is because when I did finally get to meet my dad, he brought up the same exact point!  After seeing my photos he didn't see any physical resemblance between us but the moment he saw my writing he knew right then and there that I was his daughter, and he too grabbed his spouse and shared the same realization with her that I had shared with Drew! I thought this was quite AMAZING!

So when planning our trip to Cali for Drew's schooling, I was in constant contact with Ilka, Ilka is my father's wife, and she is just awesome, I mean awesome doesn't do her justice, but for now I'll stick with awesome ;) She told me it was Scott's (my dad's name) birthday the day after Easter, the moment she told me this, I knew this was the right time to schedule a meeting, and together her and I planned a surprise reunion!  We met at California Cafe in Los Gatos for Easter brunch, Drew and I arriving early and being seated waiting anxiously for Scott and Ilka to arrive!!! It was not scary at all, I wasn't nervous just excited!  Needless to say my dad was floored when he saw us turn around in our chairs to greet them!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  We had the best visit and my dad smiled pretty much the whole time! :)  

Pretty much my dad is an evil genius, well evil is being used for dramatic effect more than actual description. But yeah basically I had so many questions answered upon our meeting. I could just see so much of myself in him.  Its crazy to realize from personal experience that in the debate over nature vs nurture that nature may actually have a HUGE role to play.  I have had to rethink my previous theories on the subject, and honestly that fascinates me only more so :)  I am so thankful to Ilka for making this all possible. And so thankful to be forging these new relationships!